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Monday, 23 August 2010 03:02
Forgiveness: The Gift You Give Yourself
by Vaishali

Forgiveness. Why does it seem so challenging? Maybe because we have a dysfunctional understanding of what forgiveness really is. Too often we associate forgiveness with letting someone who has hurt us off the hook, with no consequences for their damaging behavior. If we redefine forgiveness as a choice to grow beyond where others have hurt or mistreated us, it reframes the dynamic to be one of personal empowerment, instead of perpetual self-victimization.  Now, every time we forgive someone, it prevents their issues from limiting our lives in any way. This enables us to take back control of our personal happiness

In life, you are only good at whatever you practice. The more you practice this means of forgiveness, the more natural and comfortable you will become with it.

Forgiving friends is tricky. When you invest in someone as your friend you expect more from them. You expect them to have your best interests at heart. That is why you have classified them as “friend.” As disappointing as friends can be, forgiving them is a perfect opportunity to practice the choice of giving yourself permission to grow beyond wherever has hurt you. If you gain proficiency in this by forgiving friends, who you at least have some positive history with, it facilitates your choosing forgiveness with anyone. That way, when you need the skill to take your power back, to choose to grow beyond some Earth- shattering event that may hit your life, you will have that ability. You will have made it the natural choice by virtue of your practicing it. After all, when life gets extremely painful, you need to be able to count on you to give yourself the gift of a life worth living.

About Vaishali:

Vaishali is the author of Wisdom Rising (Purple Haze Press 2008) and You Are What You Love (Purple Haze Press 2006) and the syndiated Talk Radio Host of "You are What You Love". She demystifies mysticism by offerng answers to many thought provoking questions about the fibne art of self-resurrection. Vaishali has survived a life fraught with every possible personal challenge available to a human experience: the violent death of a loved one, lying, cheating significant others, a messy painful divorce, financial devastation due to life threateing illness and injuries. The experiences have shaped her books with honest, heartfuled and deeply insightful knowledge on how to understand the purpose behind human life. She has appeared on the Dr. Oz Radio Show and was recetnly quoted on she is a columnist for The Huffington Post and a frquent guest on network Television. She is also a faculty member of The Omega Institute.
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